.But what Astrid does not notice yet is a fact that both Ortega and O'Hara-- that possesses 2 children-- can easily attest to: The simple fact that your connection with your moms and dads adjustments as well as progresses as you each grow older, and also ideally right. "Your world facilities around [your children] when they are actually little ones [and also] it is actually a great deal work but wonderful," O'Hara says. "Later, you definitely skip that, considering that after that you can't acquire all of them to accomplish anything you prefer all of them to carry out, considering that they begin developing their very own minds, their own viewpoints." As well as eventually, you find yourself in the location O'Hara, whose children reside in their 20s as well as 30s, discovers herself now, able to gain from her youngsters. "They're only such great youthful people," she states. "I am actually not their buddy, but I really love possessing talks with them and also getting to know exactly how they think about lifestyle.".